Not Alone – Emotional Holidays after the NICU

The holidays can be a bittersweet time for many preemie families.  There is, of course, joy and time to spend with those that we love and the holidays with a child is always exciting.  At the same time the holidays can be a reminder of the hurt that comes with a baby being born too soon.

Many families are choosing to keep away from larger family gatherings in efforts to protect their children.  All too often, these parents are criticized for being “too overprotective” or “paranoid”.

Other families are spending the holidays with a child, or children, in the hospital.

Some families are reminded that their baby, who has passed, won’t be part of the holiday festivities this year.

And then there are families who struggle with PTSD or PPD and even though they know they are supposed to be happy…and maybe everything worked out as well as it could have, but they still are silently struggling to get through (never over) the pain of their baby coming too soon.

To everyone who is feeling a little bittersweet, I want you to know, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.  From our family to yours, we send you the warmest hugs and wish for you moments of comfort and joy.

For the holidays, remember the wisdom of zebras:


And most importantly, remember you are not alone.

If you’re feeling bittersweet this holiday season, please leave a comment – you may make someone’s day by sharing that you’re feeling what they are too.

I’ll share first:  I’m missing my family in Wisconsin.  My brothers and nieces and nephew, aunts, uncles and cousins.  I’m missing my niece and nephew that moved to the East Coast and I didn’t get to say goodbye.  I miss time with my family but am also grateful that I’ll be with Kyle, Kellen, Owen and my inlaws.