Many are up in arms by the image on the latest Time Magazine cover. But to me, it’s the words that get under my skin. That question, “Are you Mom Enough?” is a ridiculous question and speaks so strongly to the different areas of guilt that all mothers struggle with. I get a little defensive with the pressure to be a perfect mom – especially when tied to breastfeeding. There is a reason wet nurses have long existed – not all women have the same milk producing super powers. Through what I personally provided, a generous donor and lots and lots of doctor hounding for milk bank milk, I provided as much breast milk as I could for Owen. But to many, it wasn’t enough. I’m really insulted that the fact that I didn’t make an abundance of (or even much at all) milk makes me a lesser mom to some. So I ask those that judge me;
Are you mom enough to, in less than a year, make doctors assume you are in the medical field because you know your child in their medical language so well?
Are you mom enough to realize that it’s actually much worse when your baby stops crying for blood draws because they are so used to the pain? (By the way, they bleed more when they cry, so it’s actually a faster blood draw and likely less pokes if they cry).
Are you mom enough to help restrain your fighting child as someone shoves a tube down his nose to the top of his intestines?
Well, actually, you may not think so, but you probably are. I’m Mom enough to hope you never have to find out. Please don’t judge me for what I wasn’t able to do and I won’t judge you for what you didn’t have to do. Every mother to each child is different, but most are doing they best they can and most are pretty damn amazing.
May all the mothers have a happy day that’s free of guilt and unwanted judgments. Happy Mother’s Day!
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