Changing Times

One of the things that really surprised me (and those that know me well) about this time since Owen was born was how little I missed work.  My career has always been a huge part of my identity and my passion.

Many assumed I’d be at home pulling my hair out and longing for days in the office…my hair is still in tact and while there were days in the throes of cold and flu season that I would have liked to be anywhere other than our home, I wasn’t overwhelmed with a need to work.

When I started the blog, some, including myself, thought that one day I’d turn it into a money-making venture or maybe work towards writing a book or some sort of business.  I didn’t.  ANRC has maintained a hobby for me.  It has grown to a decent sized blog, but that’s been because readers share it with others, not because I’ve been focused on growing it.  I’ve had offers to advertise or to test products and I’ve chosen to not do it because I’ve wanted this space to be organic and about my truth without worrying about writing a post that’s going to go viral.

Between ANRC and the extent of Owen’s and Kellen’s needs, neither my heart nor my brain missed work.   That is…until recently.  Over the last couple of months, as I’ve blogged about suddenly starting to be able to breathe again  and learning to find our new normal, I was noticing that something was missing too.  I’d be in stores and notice the new products on the shelf.  I was starting to be captivated again by what was brilliant, or not so brilliant (in my opinion) in the market place.  My brain was shifting from constantly on alert for the next trip to the hospital to constantly on the alert of how people shop.  I was starting to think like a marketer again.

Kyle and I started talking about what the timing would look like for me to go back to work and we agreed, it’d make sense for me to start considering part-time work over the next 12 months.  After the Fourth of July, I freshened up my resume and dabbled on the internet job searches.  I wasn’t ready to put the word out to anyone to start networking yet, but I was seriously processing a change.

And then, one night I was laying in bed taking one last look at my email.  I had a LinkedIn invitation to connect, so I popped on the LinkedIn app.  A job on the app caught my attention.  I read it about 5 times.  It was looking for someone with exactly my background and it was in the green/eco space (a personal passion) and a start-up (I dream of being an entrepreneur).  However, it was a full-time position and start ups…they can be a lot of work.  I pushed back the urge to jump out of bed to run downstairs to apply.

I waited two days (and can I tell you I had the craziest dreams for those two days).  I have been reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandburg (a great book for all women and men), she talks a lot in her book about how sometimes you have to take the right opportunity, even if the timing might not feel right.  She basically says, don’t assume the timing is wrong until you have asked the question.  So…I applied.  I interviewed.  I received an offer.  I accepted an offer.  I hired a nanny.  Yesterday, I started training the nanny.  Did I mention that was all in the last two weeks?  I officially start working on August 5.

In truth, I’m still as surprised as everyone I tell (not so surprised that I haven’t been to the mall to freshen up my work wardrobe, of course).  The response, however, has been great.  Once the initial, “I didn’t know you were looking for a job” surprise wears off, everyone says the same thing.  “This is your time”.

I’m really proud of what I’ve done for my family these last 2.25 years.    I did things, that I never imagined I had in me to do.  And now that Owen’s health has reached a place where a qualified nanny makes sense, it is my time focus on all the things I’ve always imagined I would do.

I can be changed by what happened to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.

I’m firmly of the belief that the best way to teach your kids to reach for the stars, is to be an example of what it looks like to reach for the stars.  For some people, the ability to stay home with their family is reaching for their stars.  And those are awesome stars to reach.  However, they aren’t my stars.  I deserve to find my stars and now is my time.

Once they are done congratulating me, the next question out of everyone’s mouth is, “what about ANRC?”  I’ll talk more about it in an upcoming post, but the short answer is, ANRC will continue to be my hobby.  I may be posting closer to 1-2 times a week instead of 3-5 times, but I’m not done.  This community is too important to me.  Each reader is important to me.  Advocating for preemies and their families is important to me.  Our journey with prematurity continues and so will this blog.

Oh, and the product I’m going to be working on … it answers a need for so many preemie families.  I can’t wait to tell you all about it when I’m able.

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18 thoughts on “Changing Times

  1. Tatum,
    Congratulations on the job! This is a surprise, but I’m happy for you. Do you think we could squeeze in a lunch or breakfast b-4 Aug. 5th? Do you have any openings next Monday or Tuesday? We go to cabin tomorrow, Thursday, and return late Sunday.
    Mary

  2. Congratulations! What an exciting opportunity and I am relieved that you will still be writing here. Also, as a working preemie mom I am eager to hear your insights on some of the unique challenges that comes with that role. Cheers!

  3. Congrats!!! You have and still are such a great mommy to those 2 little boys! Im sure you will enjoy your new career and as a preemie mom I cant wait to hear about it too! 🙂

  4. Congratulations Tatum!! What an exciting time to focus on you again. You deserve it!
    I’ve been sending out resumes myself lately and balancing worry vs excitement vs guilt about being so excited. I look forward to hearing about your new adventures!

  5. Congrats Tatum! I am so happy you are reaching for your STARS!!!!! What an example you are for your kids. I love reading your ANRC – I read them regularly and am happy you will continue it. Rock on!

  6. Hi Tatum and Kyle, It’s Dawne your first cousin once removed, blah, blah. I am so glad to hear you are returning to the workforce. I had my first baby at 36 and my second at 37. I skipped back to work with bells on when Gabriella was 8 wks old….Now, totally different directions but, you will find solace with new people and new perspectives in a new enviroment and will find you are a better mother and wife with new and exciting endeavours. Harry and I wish you and Kyle the best and trust that you decision is a winner. Always in our thoughts and prayers,

  7. “I deserve to find my stars and now is my time.” Tatum. You are a force in my life and I’ve never even met you. Those words, I just can’t say how perfect they are and how perfect the ones before them are. I’m so proud of you and so proud FOR you and so so so happy. And. Um. No disrespect for your previous commenters but going back to work after having a typical baby and not? NOT THE SAME> and not even a little bit the same. (sorry) but (not sorry) but um sorry?

    I think you’ll find amazement and balance and some frustration and ultimately, your stars. Because you’re already a star, my amazing friend. You’ve been a star for preemie moms, for SN moms in general, for blog friends like me, for your boys, and for a million things but yes. I think it’s perfect that you’re getting your own. And I’ll be over here whenever you feel like posting. ‘Cause you’re that amazing.

    Cheers, friend. Huge.

  8. Congratulations! !!

    I am currently coming to the end of my maternity leave, but recently handed in my notice. It was a hard decision but felt in my heart that at this moment in time l needed to be a stay at home mum, needed to focus on my Owen and needed the time also to spend time with my other kidlets as well as have time to recharge ( the last one hasn’t happened yet) some have welcomed my decision. . Others have questioned it.

    I know I want to go back to work at some point in the future. .but when I can’t say yet, I have learnt some things I can plan some things I just have to go with and decide as and when the decision needs to be made (from a girl who loves lists. Time lines and plans this is a hard lesson to learn)
    I hope like you, my time will come and my heart and head will be ready to jump in and reach for those stars.

  9. Tatum! Congratulations! I am so happy for you and your family to be starting this new chapter in your life. None of what you said above surprises me. You have always seized the right opportunities and I think you excel marvelously under time constraints. I also read Sheryl’s book and find it very relevant and applicable to many different situations. I can’t wait to hear about this new job when you are able.
    Welcome back to the working world!
    take care, jenn kass

  10. I am so pleased for you Tatum. I completely share your philosophy of reaching for the stars and setting the example you want to set for your kids.

    I went back to work when Boo was 13 months. It was/is too soon in lots of ways but I needed to work for all sorts of reasons and my job couldn’t have been kept open longer. And career breaks don’t really exist in my line of work.

    It’s all about getting the right childcare, in my experience. If that works for you all (and we’ve had a couple of blips, but it’s early days) it will be doable. Heck it can be huge fun too.

    I really wish you all the best and, selfishly, am glad ANRC is still going to be part of your life. I think my working life would be harder without my blog.

    Congratulations and good luck!

  11. Congratulations! Opportunity was clearly knocking, you’d be foolish to not open the door. Because guess what — you can close it again. 🙂 Best wishes on the new job and adjustment for the whole family!

  12. You go girl! I am all for going with your gut. You seem to have the support in place to make it a success and a dream job should be something that works with your life. And on a personal note, isn’t it kind of a strange feeling that Owen is “healthy” enough for your to take this great chance?

    Congrats my friend!

  13. Congrats Tatum. My heart swelled when I read this post. Now both your family and your new employer will benefit from your passion and awesomeness. I am grateful that I have been connected to you in both worlds!

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